Respite
The dictionary defines respite as "a brief period of rest and recovery between periods of exertion." How often do you allow yourself those brief breaks? Respite is an important ingredient in preventing burnout.
Many parents of a child with a brain injury feel that they're being selfish if they take time for themselves. However, "me time" is essential to being a good parent, partner, and person. The next time you feel selfish when you take time to exercise or plan an evening with friends, remember that taking care of yourself will help you be there for your family for the long haul.
The Brief Break
Sometimes family members and friends are able to care for your child so you can have a needed break. If you have someone who can care for your child, try to take advantage of this opportunity. Schedule some time for yourself to do something that helps you "recharge."
- Take 10 to 20 minutes to read an enjoyable book or listen to soothing music.
- Spend half an hour having a cup of coffee with a neighbor or friend.
- Go for a short walk.
- Spend some alone time with your spouse.
- Spend time with your other children.
Hiring Respite Care
Sometimes friends, family, or sitters are unable to provide the care needed for your child. Other times you may feel that asking friends and family for help is an imposition. For a variety of reasons, respite services can care for your child on a short-term basis, either in your home or in a residential facility.
Information to Give to a Respite Provider
- Medical history of child
- Schedule of a typical day
- List of emergency numbers
- Child's likes and dislikes
- Child's communication style
- Child's emotional, cognitive, or behavioral needs
Choosing a Provider
- Check qualifications by calling former employers, checking references, and viewing copies of any certifications, licenses, or degrees.
- Trust your feelings.
- Observe provider with your child and/or with other children before you hire him or her.
- Observe child's reaction to provider.
- Visit respite setting.
- Ask if your child likes and feels comfortable with the provider.
Once you find a provider, here are some questions to ask.
Source: Shari L. Wade and Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center. Putting the Pieces Together: An Online Intervention for Pediatric Brain Injury. Materials adapted from study. 2002.